Recently, I have been consumed with trying to find a solution to a toxic friendship that I have. I have come across dozens of articles defining, categorizing and solving this anxiety provoking bond. Why do so many women fall victim to toxic friendships? Why is it so hard to create boundaries? Why do we keep going back for more?
I just found out that a very close friend of mine is battling an addiction. I have gone through about 44 emotions in the past 24 hours. I feel sad, guilty, confused, angry and about another 40 other things. I don’t understand how things got so bad, I feel guilty for not being able to pick up on odd behavior. When I think of ways to help, I feel clueless. I’ve seen rock bottom, how do you pick up the pieces and move forward? How do you repair all of the damage that was done? How do you trust again?
Anyone have any words of wisdom for me?
Jennifer Finney Boylan
An excerpt from Jennifer Finney Boylan’s interview about her transition from man to woman speaks not only to transgendered individuals but to anyone who has had to conceal their identity in order to avoid being ostracized. To go from having secrets to no longer bearing the burden of those secrets is an indescribable freedom.
I could get use to being a stranger. No expectations of future commitment. An opportunity to reinvent yourself without the baggage of your past. Just pure and simple human company.